Stop Waiting For External Validation

Hey, it's Jay. I don't know what your day's been like, but I was just thinking about you for a minute. And I hope you're being a little patient with yourself because you deserve it. And yeah, I'll talk to you soon. Most people think they have a confidence problem.

They think if they could just believe in themselves a little more, they would finally ask for the promotion, make the career change, leave the relationship that isn't working, or take the first step toward the life they've been imagining. But here's my take. I don't actually think confidence is the thing that's holding most of us back. I think the truth is we have a validation problem. Somewhere along the way, many of us stopped asking, what do I think?

And started asking, what does everyone else think? Before we buy a couch, we read 100 reviews. Before we wear an outfit, we send a picture to the group chat. Before we make a decision, we call a mentor. Before we post a photo, we overthink about how well it will be received.

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