The Gottman Doctors: Affairs Can Actually Save Your Relationship! But If You See This, It's Time To Walk Away!

When the sex falls away, it can become a serious problem. And the largest study done on the quality of sex with 70,000 people in 24 countries found the differences between people who say they have a great sex life and an awful sex life has to do with Really? That's right. Dr. John and Julie Gottman are world-renowned psychologists and researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples, written over fifty books, and helped millions of people find and stay in love. over fifty years. People don't know how to have good relationships. So I've got so many questions. I'll start from the top. What are we getting wrong? Well first of all, most people are living under the myth that you have to be compatible with a partner, which is absolutely wrong. And this is really interesting. T-shirts study where women smell t-shirts that have been worn by men for at least two days, and selected the ones they thought smelled the best, and they found that they were selecting the men that were most divergent from them genetically.

Rather than people who are like them. Because we're not really turned on by her clone. And there isn't a one. Looking for the one is a big mistake. What about how do I become the most attractive version of me if I'm looking for a partner? Yeah, that's a great question. And this is what you do. This is a difficult question to ask, but have you ever seen cheating help a relationship? Oh, very, very often. Really? When there's recovery. Uh can it be treated? Seventy five percent so far in our research. We developed a model and here's what it involved. First.

Chulely. Why do you both do what you do? Mm-hmm. I love that question.

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