Married 12 Years, Right About Each Other 20% of the Time | Leslie John

Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering if you shared too much? Or have you stayed silent in conversations to not share because you were afraid of what your partner or your friend might think of you? If you've ever wondered what you should share to your boss, your coworker, or your intimate partner to make sure you have the best relationship, this conversation is for you. In long-term relationships, why do they fall apart? Well, there was a study that looked at people who have loved each other for years and years and years.

They brought the couples into the lab and they got each person to try to guess what their spouse was thinking and feeling. And they were wrong 80% of the time. Really? She's a Harvard Business School professor, award-winning researcher and author who has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and The Economist, where she teaches the art and science of communication. Leslie, thank you so much for being here.

Another thing that really compounds the issue here is a concept called mind-reading expectations. It's really insidious because Those of us who have mind reading expectations, we implicitly believe that our partners should just know how we feel. They should just know that we had a bad day and that we're upset just by like the way we look or something. When they don't respond, then we get upset.

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