Conflict Without Repair Is Just Pain | Baya Voce

They say the number one skill is emotional regulation. And there is no way around it. You cannot escape this if you want to have a meaningful intimate relationship. There is no way around this. Author and TEDx voice, whose programs translate emotional intelligence into everyday team habits.

Please welcome Bayer Vocheck. There is no truth in relationship. There are just two people who are having their own experiences and you live in your world and I live over here in my world and as long as we're arguing for the truth, we're both gonna lose because the truth doesn't actually exist. If we're fighting the truth, we are fighting a losing battle.

Period, full stop. Agreement is the enemy of attunement, and attunement is really what we need in order to repair. We need empathy, right? If you know that you're not arguing for truth, what we're arguing for is your perspective or my perspective getting heard, seen, and validated. Conflict without repair.

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