Why Wanting Everything Leaves You With Nothing | Ep 877
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If you think about commitment as the elimination of alternatives, well then that makes sense that if you could eliminate all alternatives, that you will stay on the path that you're currently on, whether it's marriage, whether it's business, what's you just eliminate all alternatives. If another shot, you're committed. And then low expectations, which is like, okay, you're committed here, maybe don't get married, but then you can either change reality or or lower expectations. So then you just have low expectations and you're not going anywhere.
The reason you're dissatisfied is because you want things you don't have and you are unhappy with the trades that you've made, but you want to keep the things you got from making those trades and then also retrade whatever it is that you gave to get what you've got. for something else without accepting the downsides and trades of getting that thing. And so I was having this conversation with, you know, a friend of mine who's kind of in this his dating period of life trying to figure out, you know, who he's going to marry and and whatnot. And he sends me these very long, you know, voice notes and and text messages about how it's like, should I, you know, should have a stay-at-home mom type wife, a wife who's like, you know, career-oriented or should I try and have somebody who would work with me?
And he's just going through this this whole, you know, rig and roll. And he's he struggled with this for a while. And fundamentally it comes down to this, which is that he wants everything. And I'm not just saying this about him. I'm saying this about us, about all of us, right?
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