How To Have The Hardest Conversations Of Your Life - Jefferson Fisher - #1093

Why do you think people are struggling with their communication? Because it's something that wasn't taught doing. It was only modeled. And a lot of people didn't have good models. They they had people in their lives that saw conflict as something that they had to have in order to feel close to each other.

They saw how yelling was the only way to possibly stop something or maybe get physical was the only way to prove a point. And so there's a lot of people who haven't had communication modeled well in their life. And there's a lot of books you can read and there's a lot of things you can do, but not until you've actually done it can you ever start actually improving in it. It's like that Mike Tyson quote, everybody's got a plan until you get punched in the face.

Yeah, until you get popped in the mouth. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Lots of people fear conflict. but in communication especially. Why is it so scary?

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