1364: Dr. Max Butterfield | Challenging Viral Dating Myths with Science

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Just visit Jordan Harbinger dot com slash start or search for us in your Spotify app to get started. Today on the show, the internet has turned dating into amateur forensic psychology. A late reply means avoidant attachment. An argument means narcissism. A bad first date means there's no chemistry. And if your partner doesn't speak your love language, God forbid, apparently their relationship is already on life support. Dr. Max Butterfield built an audience of more than a million people online by challenging this stuff with actual relationship science. But there's a catch. Science doesn't give us a magic formula either. Today we're gonna find out what psychology can genuinely tell us about attraction, red flags, conflict, breakups, choosing a partner, and what remains an unpredictable message. Because human beings refuse to behave like lab rats. Here we go with Dr. Max Butterfield. I'm here with Max Butterfield, Doctor.

Max Butterfield. It's cool that you came up with that Almost like video, audio Trademark. Yeah, and it was an accident, to be honest. Yeah. I just got started on social media not that long ago. It's been about eighteen months. And so my very first video You don't know what you're doing. And so I had in my head, make sure to introduce yourself as Dr. Max Butterfield,'cause I don't that's not how I talk in real life. People generally I don't know what they expect, but in real life I'm just a regular guy. So I said to myself, make sure you introduce yourself, and I forgot.

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