Deeply Connected Relationships - Gay Hendricks - #983

I wanted to explain actually before we got started why I'm so interested in this stuff now and it maybe sort of frames it in the broader context of what I've been interested in over the last sort of three or four years. So I got kind of interested in mating dynamics, um, probably about four years ago or so. And I started off what lots of people do, which is macro trends. So uh rates of coupling, birth rates, uh, uh satis levels of satisfaction, uh, what's happening socioeconomically, how many people are single, so on and so forth.

It's these sort of big trends, right? It's the big stuff that's happening up top. And as soon as you've found out that, wow, there's some real changes going on here and it seems like we're in a uh a a turbulent time, you then ask, okay, well, what are the sort of underlying principles that drive human attraction? And that led me down the path of evolutionary psychology.

So what are we looking at from a an adaptive standpoint, we're looking at hypergamy and mate guarding and jealousy and male parental uncertainty and intersexual competition and kind of that suite of things, which I guess are kind of some of our psychological source code. And then the next stage that I went on to was, okay, well, modern culture, how is the macro trend and the underlying sort of ancestral programming, how is that what what's happening in the modern world, changes that have happened that have sort of led us to some of this this turbulence maybe occurring. So you're talking about sexual revolution and and the creation of the pill and dating apps and and technology and distraction and so on and so forth.

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