The Dating Advice Making Us Worse at Love with Relationship Expert Amy Chan

When I look at my favorite couples, yeah, and I and I have a few of them, like the couples that I like, I want a relationship exactly like theirs, like, my God. If I ask any of them, what's your secret, they all say the same thing, which is, we do the work. You know? I think what you've explained when you talk about your the friends that you have that have great relationships. and the ups and downs and the working through it, you describe a great relationship.

And I think a challenge that people have today is this mindset that they need to meet the perfect person first and then it'll be great. We need to meet people who are good enough and then we jump in with two feet and then Through going through the stuff. It's the hard stuff when you're there for each other that it goes from good to great. Some of the dating advice that we follow might actually be making us worse at dating.

Know your type, trust the spark, watch for red flags, never settle, protect your peace. And if someone isn't quite right, there are hundreds of other options waiting on an app. The problem is the person who's great on a first date isn't necessarily great at a relationship. Instant chemistry isn't a good sign. A red flag might just be an imperfection.

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