5 Lessons to Stop Chasing and Start Attracting | Lewis Howes

What if I told you that chasing love makes you less attractive? The truth is magnetism isn't about clinging or proving your worth. It's actually about being in alignment, healing, and choosing healing daily. I'm sharing five lessons that I've learned from my conversations with my wife Martha that will help you stop chasing and start healing and become truly magnetic in love and in life. And there's five key lessons.

The first lesson for this is a big one. And that is don't make someone your whole world. The fastest way to push someone away is to make them your entire world every day. Real attraction happens when your world is already full. It's already expansive.

You've already got a lot of activities, people in your life, and you're feeling purposeful and you're feeling fully alive. And then you invite the person into that world. A lesson from this is that real attraction comes from having your own world, your own values, your vision, your mission, and letting your partner be one important planet in that universe of your world. Martha told me that she's not my entire world.

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