That Feeling of "Always-Behind and Never-Enough"—Here's the Antidote | Ellen Hendriksen

It's the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello everybody, how are we doing? Perfectionism can really be the ultimate headfuck. You know it's driving you crazy, that feeling of always behind and never enough.

But you tell yourself that you need this relentless self-criticism in order to get anything done, in order to succeed, that anything less would be an unacceptable, even dangerous lowering of your standards. All lies, according to my guest today, Ellen Hendrickson, who's a clinical psychologist at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. She's got a new book. It's called How to Be Enough. Self-acceptance for self-critics and perfectionists.

This is Ellen's second appearance on the pod. She actually came on several years ago to discuss her first book. It was about social anxiety. It was called How to Be Yourself. I'll drop a link to that in the show notes if you want to go check it out.

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