MEL ROBBINS: How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Feeling Guilty (Follow THIS Simple Rule to Set Boundaries and Stop Putting Yourself Last!)

I'm so excited to be here tonight at the Wang Theatre in Boston with one of my dearest, dearest friends, Truly. And I want to dive straight in, Mel, because you've got so much insight, so much wisdom on this that I've been fortunate enough to benefit from in our friendship. But I want to start by asking you, what do you think people are most worried about? when it comes to what others think about them. Well, I brought notes.

Because I know Jay asks very tough questions. I think that the thing that we're most worried about is just that people aren't going to like you, that they're going to misunderstand you. That's the thing that we're the most worried about because if you didn't care whether or not people liked you, if you didn't care about whether or not people misunderstood you or your intentions, you would just go about your life however the heck you wanted to, right? And so Truly, if you stop and think, like think about one person in your life who that's the person whose opinion you worry about the most.

Imagine if you could go about your life. And not care if they like you or not, not care if they don't understand you or not. And sometimes people will be like, well, it's my boss. Okay, there's a lot of bosses out there. If the one that you're working for doesn't like you, there's nothing you can do about it, but you can always leave the job.

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