Cynthia Erivo: ‘I Was Working To Prove That I Was Worth Loving’ (How to Finally Let Go of the Need For Approval & Build Real Self-Worth)

I can tell when I walk into a room when someone wants me there or not. Terrible tendency is sort of almost shut down immediately. They grab me Emmy and Tony award-winning actor and singer, you know, from the color purple, Harriet, and Wicked. Oscar-nominated incredible actor, singer, author, and producer! Cynthia Arrivo.

What is the right type of validation to crave? All of it is healthy and all of it is unhealthy. So it's lovely to hear it, but if you don't feel that way about yourself, none of the comments, none of the making someone finally fall in love with you matters. You always felt like you didn't fit in. I had to come to terms with the fact that I don't think I'm ever going to fit in.

And why would I want to? We don't want to let people down. We want people to be happy. We don't want to break someone's heart. But the reality is that is how the way things go.

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