On Purpose with Jay Shetty · 2026-05-04 · 88 min · 15,172 words

Esther Perel: The REAL Reason You’re Struggling to Find Love (Fix THIS to Build Chemistry in Real Life)

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We put the focus on you choosing bad people, you always fall in love with the wrong guy. What does it say about you? What do you think about people having a list of everything they want in a person? Love will laugh at you. Is love enough?

No. Should love be hard? There is no love story that isn't overcoming obstacles. Attraction plus obstacle equals Excitement, love, desire.

Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the place you come to become happier, healthier, and more healed. Today I'm joined by one of the most influential voices on love and relationships in the entire world, Esther Perel. Esther is a renowned psychotherapist, and the mind behind the groundbreaking book Mating in Captivity. And as the book celebrates its 20th anniversary, we explore why Esther's insights on love, desire, and intimacy remain just as true today.

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