Why Children of Divorce Grow Into Broken Adults - Erica Komisar - #1081

Why do you think your work is seen as controversial? Well, a number of reasons. I think some of the things I talk about, even though they're truths, they're inconvenient truths, um, you know, my first book was about the importance of attachment security the first three years and my mother's presence. And so I think originally when that book came out, um, it was perceived as a message, which it really wasn't, which was an anti-feminist message that women shouldn't work.

That wasn't the message of the book at all. Rather, it was a message about the importance of uh a mother or primary attachment figures physical and emotional presence as much as possible in the first three years. And again, that's a sensitive message in a society that says work, work, work, everybody should work, work, work, and no one should raise their own children. And so I think that's how I originally became controversial.

I think I'm controversial in many ways. I think my most recent book is controversial in other ways. Um my book on divorce, which Much less contentious topic. It is, but it isn't, because the book actually makes the argument of um this idea of 50-50 needs to be looked at very carefully, that we are treating children like possessions and divorces. So that's that's a sort of controversial idea.

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