Quinlan Walther: Stop Chasing Love Just Because You’re Lonely! (Do THIS to Attract the RIGHT Relationship)
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What's the difference between wanting a relationship and being ready for a relationship? One of my favorite ways to frame this, uh, which I think we can all relate to, is you shouldn't go grocery shopping when you're starving. We don't tend to make the best choices. We grab the first thing we see, we grab all the things that we want that look exciting, right? Oh, that'll taste so good.
I want this, I want that. Not necessarily what we need. And that, in my opinion, applies to dating and relationships as well. When you go out into the world, you start dating, you're looking for a relationship, you want to have a pretty solid understanding of what it is that you're looking for. You want to have a pretty solid understanding of how you love yourself, how you show up for yourself, the life you want to create for yourself, the relationship.
That would be an added bonus to that life that you want to create. Rather than feel like you're trying to fill a void, you end up seeking connections from a place of desperation that that can't be fulfilling because it's essentially pouring into a bottomless pit of a trying to fill this this bottomless void. So in my opinion, asking yourself those questions first, really spending time understanding who you are, what you want, how you can love yourself, how you can support yourself, how you can commit to building a life you like and the relationship that could be a bonus. I also want to add the caveat that it's not as if you have to go hide away, do all of those things and then come out and find the relationship.
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