Why Love Feels So Hard — And How to Finally Feel Safe in Your Relationships (with Jillian Turecki)

What you're afraid of is that you are not good enough and that because you're not good enough, you are somehow going to be deprived of love. That is the fear that underlies all problems in relationships. Jillian Turecki is a renowned relationship expert. She's a New York Times bestselling author. She's a hope of the podcast Jillian on Love.

Jillian has helped millions of people over the last 20 years to revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they can transform their romantic relationship. We reached out to our audience and we let them know we were coming on the podcast and the number one topic they wanted to know about was emotional regulation and managing triggers. Nine times out of ten, we're projecting. We're not seeing our partner, we're seeing our ex, we're seeing mom, we're seeing dad, and we're seeing things that we haven't resolved inside ourselves and making our partner the enemy. This is the most important key to self-regulation.

is stopping the story inside your head that is making your partner into the enemy. How can couples rebuild a connection if it's faded or it's lost? You cannot change another person. You can only change yourself. You have to have the mindset of I'm gonna show up in the best way that I possibly can for me.

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