Why You’re Obsessed, Anxious, And Still Single - Mercedes Coffman - #1092

I've heard you say that avoidant culture is changing relationship expectations. Yes. How so? Well, there's a couple of different reasons. I mean, I think avoidance culture is making people have to minimize themselves because we're interconnected human beings.

We need to be connected to other beings, right? It regulates our nervous system, it makes us feel good, it stabilizes us. And so nowadays, with everything being expedited, we live in an era of immediacy. And everything is geared towards reinforcing avoidance versus intimacy. Everything is about instant gratification, getting results right away.

And so people, especially emotionally available people, which is who I largely work with as far as my clientele, they're noticing that they're lowering their standards in order to keep a relationship. And so the only way that now people see an opportunity for a relationship or maintaining a relationship is by changing their standards. Otherwise, they feel like there's no hope left. Because especially in dating apps, everything is about convenience and speed, about disposability, and nobody really wants to take the time to have gradual development. Is that avoidant culture?

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