Dr. Orna Gurlanik: Struggling to Communicate With Your Partner? THIS One Habit Could Slowly Be Destroying Your Relationship! (Here’s How to Catch It Before It’s Too Late!)

What would you say are the top three things you hear when someone first comes in to your office? I often joke about it that that most couples come in saying that they have problems in communication. Now, I understand that it looks like a problem in communication because the way couples interact with each other is by mostly by talking, although there's a lot of nonverbal talking through one's feet. But where whatever's going on between them manifests is going to be in their communication.

So couples typically think, if only we could communicate better, our problems would be solved. So that's the number one thing that people come in with. Then there are particular kind of, we could say, content areas that couples come complaining about depending on where they are in their life cycle. Very common one is division of labor. it's not fair, who's doing what more.

Questions around intimacy, whether it's sex or spending time together or connecting, then there are ways in which their early childhood manifests in their couple's life. But I'd say those are like the key areas. So it sounded like when you were saying people come in and they think communication's the issue, the look on your face was that's not really the issue. So what is the issue? Right.

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