Secret Service Agent: Never Label Someone A Narcissist! This Habit Makes People Hate Talking To You!

I've got a difficult conversation I want to have with someone. Yeah. And they might be a narcissist. So let's stop there, because if you just blatantly label somebody as being a narcissist, you're not going to be able to really understand who this person is and why they are the way they are. But when you need to go into a dark conversation, to make things simple, there are four things that you can do. Because we all have those conversations. We have a supervised. Who we feel is overlooking us in a promotion, maybe our spouse we got in a fight with, maybe a friend who's betrayed us, and they're cloaked in so much emotion or so much tension that you don't know how to handle that. But there's also three things that you should stop doing, such as stop telling people you understand. Telling you understand. Yep. This is what we're gonna talk about. For over thirty years, former Secret Service agent Desmond O'Neill has used science-backed interrogation techniques against some of the world's biggest liars. He's trained elite teams from the FBI to the CIA. And now, in his first public conversation, he's laying out the frameworks you need to communicate effectively, how to lead, and how to get anyone to open up. when it comes to being able to communicate with somebody. The victory lies in the little things that you do. So you need to have a plan. P is for purpose. So why are you there? What is the goal of the conversation? Because especially in emotional conversations, it becomes really easy to get distracted. And if you lose your cool

You lose control. And then there's an A is to ask. Because most of us think we know what our partner's thinking, right? But the research shows we're only accurate about 40% of the time. And if that conversation gets emotional, that 40% can go down as low as 15%. It's called empathy accuracy. And so the power of asking questions is important, but when you fail to do that, you are gonna have a really hard time having. They did. Honest relationship with somebody. And then there's the L and the N, which most people do wrong, and we'll go into that. And then what about body language? Can you tell if I'm being deceptive by how much I look at someone? So there's a few indicators of somebody telling the truth. And we'll talk about them. And what about leadership principles? So I learned the true essence of leadership when I was on a SWAT team from situations like when you're hunting someone and they're hunting you as well. Well. So let's get into the details.

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