#798: Terry Real — Breaking the Rules of Traditional Couples Therapy for Superior Results, A Few Frameworks That Work

Hello, ladies and gyms, boys and girls. This is Tim Ferris. Welcome to another episode of the Tim Ferris Show. For this episode, I'm going to offer something a little different. I'm going to introduce you to Terry Real. Terry Real is by far The best relationship coach, the best couples therapist I have ever. met. He does not just parrot back questions. If you ask him what he thinks, he will not just ask you what you think. He has strong opinions, positions,

He says it straight and First and foremost, he has a toolkit. He has practices. that are incredibly helpful. for couples and his name has come up with various friends ranging from Kevin Rose to Dr. Peter Tia and he does not disappoint. So in this episode, because he is very, very hard to get a hold of for direct client work, you will get to

In effect, hear him like you would in a real session. And I've done real sessions with him. So what you'll hear in this episode and learn, among other things, are number one, that relationships are not always harmonious. And that'll be obvious to anyone who's been married for a while, for instance, but it is a constant cycle of harmony to disharmony and then repair. So the critical skill set is repair. And what I'm going to share in this episode, because I was so impressed by it, are a few chapters from his book, Fierce Intimacy. And this will provide you with a map for identifying losing strategies and replacing them with winning strategies. These are real approaches that you can use. So a bit of background on Terry. He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy or RLT, which underpins all of his books, courses, teachings, and so on. He is also the author of five books, including the New York Times bestseller Us, subtitled Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Last but not least, I'll throw in a little bonus in that is if you'd like an extra dose of calm.

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