Primal Dating: What Modern Romance Gets Wrong | Tim Ash
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Welcome to Behavioral Groups, the podcast that explores why we do what we do, as well as how a better understanding of human behavior can help us make better choices in work, in life, and everywhere in between. I'm Kurt Nelson and I'm Tim Houlihan, and today's episode is about something most of us think we understand pretty well. That is until it stops working. Yeah, right. We're talking about dating.
We're talking about relationships, attraction, and this idea of partnership. We carry around a lot of stories about how all of this should work, but we we don't always get the facts straight, Tim, you know? We don't really understand how it could work really well into our lives. Yeah, and a lot of us tell ourselves interesting stories like the we're modern humans we're evolved past our human instincts and how love is mostly about shared values good communication and maybe a little bit of chemistry okay okay now and while none of that is wrong definitely not the whole story yeah you see beneath all of our apps and norms and expectations and cultural rules
we're still using an operating system in our brain that was designed for a very different and ancient world. Yeah, that that world which was made up of small tribes, high risk, scarce resources, and a very asymmetric biological stakes. Which leads us to today's big behavioral science, aha, and that is Modern dating problems aren't just random, they are predictable mismatches between ancient biological tendencies and a radically new and different environment. Yeah, our guest today has spent years exploring exactly that mismatch, and he's going to share how we can best address that.
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