How to Tame Your Advice Monster and Become a Better Listener | Michael Bungay Stanier

the more you can realize how little you actually know about the person, about what's really going on, about what's really hard for them, about what the context really is, the more you can realize how unlikely it is that the advice you've got is the advice that they're actually looking for. Welcome to the One You Feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have. Quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think ring true, and yet for many of us our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear.

We see what we don't have instead of what we do. We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living.

This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good wolf. Most of us have what Michael Bungay Stanier calls an advice monster. The part of us that can't wait to weigh in, fix things. and offer the solution before the other person has finished talking. Taming it, he says, comes down to one big change.

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